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Protecting Our Children From Sexual Assault – Mass Appeal

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A problem that has once again caught national attention recently is sexual assault on children, and Ken Dolan Del Vecchio, author or “Simple Habits of Exceptional (but not perfect) Parents” gave us insight on recognizing and preventing sexual assault for your children.

For more information, you can call the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-4-A-CHILD or visit childhelp.org 

 

Source: https://www.wwlp.com/mass-appeal/protecting-our-children-from-sexual-assault/1082473936

Accepting Your Children As Adults – Mass Appeal

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It can be a hard transition, but, as it turns out, your children eventually become adults – even when they’re still in high school. Ken Dolan-Del Vecchio, author of “Simple Habits of Exceptional (but not perfect) Parents,” explained how to accept and understand this rite of passage.

Tips To Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions In 2018 – Mass Appeal

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Only 8 percent of people actually keep their New Year’s Resolutions. Don’t be in the 92 percent who break them! Family Therapist Ken Dolan Del-Vecchio shared tips to set attainable goals for 2018.

How to Make Your 2018 New Year’s Resolutions Actually Happen

1. Make your resolutions very specific and measurable so there’s no wiggle room: “I will take a walk that lasts at least 20 minutes on at least two days every week” or “I will put at least $25 into my savings account after receiving every paycheck,” instead of “I will exercise more” or “I will save more.”

2. Write your resolutions down and carry them with you in your purse or wallet. Writing down your goals makes it much more likely that you’ll follow through.

3. Make your resolutions achievable, not overly ambitious. Notice that above I wrote “at least 3 days each week” instead of “every day.” Setting overly ambitious resolutions is a recipe for disappointment, frustration, and giving up.

4. Tell people who love and respect you what you’ve resolved to do and encourage them to bug you, in the nicest possible way, about following through. This kind of loving accountability can work wonders.

5. Give yourself small rewards as you follow through, even if this only means taking a moment to congratulate yourself. Savoring our achievements encourages us to keep going.

*It’s important to note that very small, easily achievable behavior changes often spark even more significant changes. Success at making small positive changes in our behavior fuels the self-esteem and motivation that leads to bigger changes.

Source: https://www.wwlp.com/mass-appeal/tips-to-keep-your-new-years-resolutions-in-2018/1082392115

When “No” No Longer Applies – Mass Appeal

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When raising kids, it’s so easy to say “no”, but when should you stop? Author, Family Therapist and Founder of GreenGate Leadership Ken Dolan Del Vecchio walked us through when “no” no longer applies.

 

Source: https://www.wwlp.com/mass-appeal/parent/when-no-no-longer-applies_20180327073235484/1082311433

How To Help Kids Develop Critical Thinking Skills – Mass Appeal

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Teaching our kids critical thinking skills is so important, but it can be easily forgotten with everything else going on in life. Author, Family Therapist, and President of GreenGate Leadership Ken Dolan-Del Vecchio shared tips.

 

Source: https://www.wwlp.com/mass-appeal/parent/how-to-help-kids-develop-critical-thinking-skills/1082365055

Choosing The Right Therapist – Mass Appeal

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CHICOPEE, Mass. (Mass Appeal) – If you’re looking for a helping hand to get you through tough times, or just someone to talk about your day to, therapy might be the perfect option for you. Family Therapist Ken Dolan Del-Vecchio gave us tips to finding the right therapist!

Source: https://www.wwlp.com/mass-appeal/choosing-the-right-therapist_20180314102713750/1043328684

Men’s Role In Ending Intimate Partner Violence – Mass Appeal

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Learn how to challenge men to put a stop to this serious problem.

Source: https://www.wwlp.com/news/mass-appeal-mens-role-in-ending-intimate-partner-violence/1040321527

Intimate Partner Violence – Mass Appeal

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CHICOPEE, Mass. (Mass Appeal) – Intimate partner violence happens more than we know, in fact, 24% of women and 12% of men fall victim to intimate partner violence at least once during their lives. It’s important to raise awareness and talk about these issues that go left unsaid, so Author, Family Therapist and Health & Wellness Executive Ken Dolan-Del Vecchio shared more about ways to help someone in need.

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233

Source: https://www.wwlp.com/mass-appeal/relationship/intimate-partner-violence_20180314101626948/1043247102

How Do You Stop Bullying? – Mass Appeal

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CHICOPEE, Mass. (Mass Appeal)  25 to 33 % of school children report having been bullied, the highest incidence happening during middle school … so what can you do you stop it?  Ken Dolan-Del Vecchio, Author, Family Therapist, Health and Wellness Executive shared ideas.

Stopping Bullying

1. Define bullying

2. Bullying in the workplace – underlying bullying

3. Target is seen as someone “Different”

4. Bullies hide their negativity to other people

5. What you can do if your child is being bullied

  • Listen and believe.
  • Empathize regarding how painful this feels.
  • Reinforce that this is not your child’s fault,
  • Share a story about a time when you or someone close to you was bullied.
  • Let your child know that bullying cannot usually be stopped by the person on the receiving end. .
  • Find a “safe person” – adult at school
  • Promptly talk with your child’s teacher and other school officials. (senior manager at work intervene)
  • Be an “upstander,” not a bystander: confront the behavior.
  • If you don’t feel safe confronting the bully, talk with others whom you respect and work together on an intervention plan.

6. If you or your child engage in bullying behavior:

  • Take responsibility
  • The National Domestic Violence Hotline, a great source of help, is available 24/7/365 at 800-799-7233.
Source: https://www.wwlp.com/mass-appeal/parent/how-do-you-stop-bullying/1043363693

The Art Of Assertiveness – Mass Appeal

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CHICOPEE, Mass. (Mass Appeal)  Assertiveness is an important life skill that can be learned.  Here with tips is Ken Dolan-Del Vecchio, Author, Family Therapist, Health and Wellness Executive.

The Art of Assertiveness

  • Assertiveness means recognizing our own needs and striving to fill them. This requires speaking up about what we need from others.
  • Assertiveness begins with understanding that one is as important, valuable, and worthy of respect as everyone else.
  • Assertiveness is a personality style that both gives and commands respect.
  • We demonstrate assertiveness with our words, tone and behavior.
  • Because many people confuse assertiveness with aggression, below are some important differences between the two:
    • Assertiveness delivers and invites mutual respect. Aggression delivers and invites hostility.
    • Assertiveness relies upon looking within oneself to identify one’s own needs, sufficient self-respect to value them, and the courage to work toward meeting them. Assertiveness balances this effort by recognizing the needs of others and valuing those also. Aggression tries to satisfy one’s own needs while disregarding the needs of others.
    • Assertiveness holds positive intentions. Aggression often seeks to hurt, take from, overpower, or diminish others.
    • Assertiveness seeks mutual understanding and mutual success. Aggression seeks to win.
    • Assertiveness strives for fairness. Aggression strives for dominance.
    • It can help to keep this motto in mind: Say what you mean, mean what you say, but don’t say it mean.
  • Assertiveness is an important life skill that can be learned.
  • Each of us deserves to be assertive about our needs.

Source: https://www.wwlp.com/mass-appeal/personal/the-art-of-assertiveness/1043386875